In India menstruation is an absolute taboo topic.
But… My friends, both male and female talk about it quite openly and help each other when we feel weak during these days.
I think it is really important to accept it the way it is and realize it is an absolutely natural step in every women’s life.
I’ll talk about some of my experience with my first menstruation and how I dealed with it:
I had got my first period at the age of 12, which was quite late compared to my other friends. I was excited and equally scared as my mid-terminal examinations were going on, and I shared everything with my school mates as even they shared their own experiences.
So… I thought I will finally be prepared to “Become a Women”.
The first time is always terrible, it was painful (it is even now, haha) and woke me up in the nights (which happens even now).
Yes, I was aware as in what was going on, but I wasn’t used to bleeding constantly so I got a bit scared, ‘my mum’ and she helped me to calm down and explained how to wear a pad. The next day she told me for a walk and we got ice-cream, infact I was given a lot of other things to eat to feel energetic and fresh. I was feeling proud and mature.
SELF CARE TO EASE MENSTRUAL CRAMPS:
• Keep yourself warm, wear socks cover your feet, cover your waist – I love wearing cardigans.
• Apply hot pack on waist and lower abdomen, this will relax muscles of uterus and ease the pain.
• If you’re bloated, eat banana, drink warm soups, herbal teas, and lots of water.
• Self Massage – massage your feet, ankles, abdomen with oil, this encourages blood flow and relieves pain
• Try doing some exercises, do not be rigid on yourself, practise a few simple and moderate exercises as it will help improving blood flow and calms mind!
SOME SUPER REAL PERIOD THINGS ALL DUDES NEED TO UNDERSTAND:
Cramps are real. So, so, so real. Basically, all the stuff women complain about in movies and a Cathy cartoon are real, so please don’t question it because it’ll just result in you never to see her tomorrow.
Yes, we really do crave chocolate. It’s biological, and it can’t and shouldn’t be messed with. Just dump a bag of candy bars on our face and leave us alone for a week. Everything is gonna be OK.
You can help. Like, seriously, just ask us what we need and then get it for us. Maybe it’ll be purchasing a cake from our favorite bakery or maybe it’ll be massaging our backs until we gratefully pass out. Whatever it is, if you do it, we will love you forever, ever.
Just because we cry doesn’t mean we’re “moody.” Very real shit is happening with our bodies and minds and so the best thing you can do is:
(1) Just listen while we complain
(2) ply us with chocolate. Also, maybe a hug or two if we’re not feeling too bloated or rage-y.
We have to plan outfits around our periods. I haven’t worn anything white mid-month since I was 14.
A guy can’t blame my period for anything but I can use it for everything. That’s in the Constitution. Look it up.
Just tell us we’re beautiful and give us candy. And you’ll be golden. Until next month, that is: Laughs like a Disney villain and then falls asleep in a pool of my own chocolate drool.
“Even though periods suck, being a woman rules. I can grow life in my stomach and birth it out my vagina. I AM MAGIC.”🧚♀🦄