“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.”
~ John Lennon
Ok, I am not trying to become a therapist here, but from past a few days I’ve been a little rigid on myself and my body…which I realised was very wrong!!
So, today I found myself giving some suggestion to each of you reading this. Maybe it’s the season, maybe it’s in the air. And maybe you can benefit, too. What I want to say repeatedly is, “Take good care of yourself.”
Somehow it’s seems so easy to forget to pay attention to our own needs.
We push through, keep going, and ignore ourselves until the well runs completely dry.
Then you wonder why you are exhausted, why you feel anxious and disconnected…
Taking care of yourself means counting yourself in.
You matter, you absolutely do. And your quality of life suffers when you neglect yourself.
We normally tend to find happiness in others which is not completely wrong, but eventually when we are happier with ourselves is when we can see happiness in others🌈
You lose a sense of your priorities, and you end up grasping for solutions just to keep your head above water.
Maybe you think that taking care of yourself is selfish. This is a common misconception that is patently untrue. Be there for your self🌸
Being caught up in your own stress doesn’t serve you or anyone else. Stop overthinking.
Commit to taking care of you for you, for your quality of life, so you can live with a full and open heart. And don’t have to lean on anybody to make you happy.
Here is the paradox: When you take good care of yourself, you get out of your own way. You are less self-focused. You aren’t captured by your needs, dramas, and obsessions.
Start with you, and you will experience great freedom in being open, peaceful, and awake to your life and everyone in it.
Beauty of this book: The beauty of this book by Coelho is that it revolves around a real character with real incidents with a touch of fiction.
TBH, I never knew who Mata Hari was before I got my hands on this book, Perhaps, that is one of the main reasons which developed more interest in me to stay glued to the book other than the captivating style of writing the author possess.
The story begins with this not a very positive connotation, “Her only crime was to be an independent woman.” This gives a subtle underlying message of a woman who has lived on her own terms and has not been treated well by the society.
Story the book tells:
The first few paragraphs in it tell you about the challenges Mata Hari had faced from being penniless when she arrived in Paris to being an affluent dancer within a few months.
A couple of pages in the book only talk about the luxury items she used to carry in her suitcases while she used to travel from one part of the country to another for her dance shows.
She was as bewitching a courtesan as she was a dancer and ‘the era’s richest and most powerful men’ dreamed about her and some of them also made up to her.
The scene moves to World War I, when the country was only suspicious about each other’s activities, Mata Hari’s lifestyle came to question. She was arrested on accusation charges of espionage. Later, they describe about the letter exchanges between the protagonist and her lawyer. She was alleged to be a spy agent for France and Germany.
A little part of the story also traverses through her thoughts between writing letters and waiting for the final verdict. She discloses various events of her life from being sexually abused by her school principle to receiving materialist favors against nooky to her other encounters with men and eventually self-realization of how wasteful her life had been.
It’s that time of the book🥺 She’s been projected to be guilty of the choices she made and her heart full of remorse and repentance except considering working as a spy when she says, “I am a woman who was born at the wrong time and nothing can be done to fix this. I don’t know if the future will remember me, but if it does, may it never see me as a victim, but as someone who moved forward with courage, fearlessly paying the price she had to pay.”
And now the truth is, If it would had not been for the love of author I enjoy reading, I wouldn’t have picked up this book. I’m sure it impacts differently to different people as those who would have known about her history and grew in Holland, Paris hearing about her in stories would be able to relate better.
That is all I got to cover for the review of this book, which, I had read long ago. I hope I was able to give you a deep glimpse of the story🌈
Pages : 186 (You will love the extra fits in the book also the packaging and labeling)
This is my first nomination for any Award, when I got to know that I’m being nominated for this award I felt genuinely happy🥺🥰 (Aahh, teary eyes)
I was being nominated for the Sunshine Blogger Award by the lovely, @Shaheen Reviews , A Beautiful Cook❣️ Thank you so much!! 😊
However, if you aren’t already following her, I highly recommend you to quickly rush towards her page👆 to find some of the luscious and stunning food recipes😋
What is the Sunshine Blogger Award?
The Sunshine Blogger Award is given to those who are creative, positive and inspiring while spreading sunshine to the blogging community.
Now, how does it work and what are the rules?
•Thank the blogger(s) who nominated you in a blog post and link back to their blog. •Answer the 11 questions sent by the person who nominated you. •Nominate 11 new blog to receive the award and write them 11 new questions. •List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo in your post and/or on your blog.
The questions set by Shaheen
Where do you get inspiration for your hobbies/interests/talents? – It is my Mom💜 and my Dadzu💜 who motivates me to do anything and have always stood by my decisions no matter what. I’m forever indebted to them🌈💗
Whatever your blog is about, when and why did you get interested in that topic? – My blog is all about personal blogging, I write on topics I’ve learned on my daily basis, and I love coming and sharing it with you guys🥰 I apply form known as creativity to see the beauty in all things i wish to accomplish as a part of my interest in blogging😇
Do you ever feel nervous before publishing a blog post? – Honestly, Yes, at times, because the topics or subjects you are interested in doesn’t mean that the rest of the world will also find it worth giving a read. Yet, I believe that my posts makes ones heart dance🙈
One thing that can lighten up you day in an instant? – There are a few, but any one thing is always getting to eat deserts…🌈💜
Most watched tv series? – I don’t have any “most watched” as I’m not a very huge fan of TV Series, but it can be The House Of Cards on instant.
Your comfort food? – Chicken Mandi
What is a Good morning like for you? – When I can get to do my morning prayers and a huge mug of latte🤤💜
What’s your favorite thing about your blog? – I love when people comment on my posts and interacting or chatting with them or getting to know their opinions is my most favorite thing
What activity takes the most of your time? – Social media without a purpose or too much of socializing😬
Are you, so far, proud and satisfied with your blog’s progress? – Yes, Allhmd, I am! And I will bare the patience of growing and glowing even more🌈💜
And that’s it for my answers! Thanks again Shaheen for coming up with these questions and tagging me – these were so much fun to answer!
Obviously, you only have to do this if you want to, so no pressure if you don’t! And if you already did this at some point, I hope you don’t mind getting a different set of questions – feel free to take your time answering!
Questions for my nominees:
What is the purpose of you blogging?
What is your blog mostly focused on?
How long does it take you to write an average blog?
How did your family members react when you told them about your blogging decision?
Are you also frequently asked this question that “Do you make any money out of blogging”?? How do you answer it?
What is that one topic you always wanted to write a blog on but couldn’t for any reason!?
What is that dream destination of yours?
Has blogging changed your life overall?
Do you study/do any additional job other than writing blogs?
Any three random facts about yourself!?
One of your favorite post you’ve written?
Okay Guys, so that’s it for today, I hope you liked my answers, I have genuinely answered them all also, please let me know your opinions on my questions, let’s chat in the comment section…👻
Note⚠ I haven’t mentioned any detailing of the show, so do not worry of the spoilers.
Okay… I know that Vampire Diaries must be an too old topic for some of you to have a discussion over, but… Dude? Do we really need “specific” time period to talk about this show🥺🧡
The Vampire Diaries will forever be a favorite of mine. I still can’t believe that after watching the very first episode, I would get addicted to it and would still be so addicted!
My favorite Characters🥺💗
• Forever Damon💜
In reality, you will find all the characters very attractive, eventually this show is all about falling in love with the cast and crew.
But, Damon is something whole of a mood, he have a depth, when he is sad or hurt, he acts out.
He is sarcastic and will make you laugh😂💜
The way he loves Elena will make you crave for such man in your lives too….🥺💜
Woof, he is fire🔥💥, this character will make you hate him and you’ll eventually be threatened to watch him and his moves.
But, when it comes to his and Caroline’s little secretive sparkling love story, your heart will get all melted🥺❣️
I love her courage and her friendship with Damon (Boman)
She will get all your attention to her magic tricks…and the way she defeats her enemies💗
Did you know? The crow that is seen in the pilot is the reference to Damon, who is in the books had the power to transform into a crow. The producers said they didn’t run with that because they didn’t want to give him too many powers too quickly and leave no room for growth.
Some of my favorite moments from the series🥺💜
I hope you enjoyed these little moments from the series, there were many more but I couldn’t fit all of them as the blog would have got very lengthier😂. Tell me about your favorite shows or the parts from this series….😍🌈
I love flying and I love love Airport’s, me and my brothers just use to travel miles to see airport and those roads😂 and never left a chance to pick/drop my relatives whosoever travelled from other places.
When I was younger, I wanted to be a detective because of Sherlock Holmes💞…😝
I’m really bad at running, I have never taken part in Relay competitions during the inter-school sports meets😂
I love love love coffee, the smell of coffee itself makes me go all🤤🥵🤪
My favorite colours can only be Black, peach and Tiffany…Mmmm🌈
I love gardening, and one day I wish to have a huge farm with all varieties of greens and pinks / violets💚💗💜
I am a huge fan of deep oceans and water bodies… Gives me a lot of peace🌊🌸
Since my childhood I’ve been an admirer of Disney’s princess’s, Hehe, you won’t believe I had a huge collection of them as such in glass, spoons, plates, bowls, blankets, backpacks, pen boxes/pouches, clothes, footwears…etc, etc😂
I love sleeping on couches rather than on bed…it’s always comfort, later painful 😭 too as my back and neck freezes😂
I love baking, which is my stress buster🧚♀🌸
There you have it! Some fun facts about me. Now, it’s your turn. Tell me about yourself in the comments below.
I know it’s been quite late since I’ve posted anything or have written about any topic, mostly because this quarantine have made me meet myself 🌸
Nice to meet me.
Also, nowadays it is like, I’m lost but don’t know where.
Does it happen that you feel that you have lost a part of yourself, a part that you loved, a part that gave you confidence and it defined who you were?
No.. No, Nonono…i haven’t started doubting myself. Or being afraid of failing, of taking risks, or of being sure.
It is just that, My lockdown days have been a roller coaster of emotions for me.
I think my lockdown days have gone in a circle. You know, there is this song “Kho Gaye Hum Kahan” and I can so much relate to each inch of this song being initially, very bored, feeling like a prisoner(lol) being so restless and stressed, angry, cranky and annoyed.
Would just quickly wrap this blog up by saying that if you are able to read this blog of mine, and are surrounded with food, a roof above your head and a family that loves you, you are more lucky than half of the world today!
Count your blessings, stay safe, try not to panic and stress out.
Reach out for help if you need any because it is completely okay not to feel like yourself sometimes🌈
Finding the right person, a person you want to spend your life with, is the greatest accomplishment one can achieve. Yet, the unfortunate truth is that the right person doesn’t always come at the right time. And that makes all the difference.
It isn’t that you find the right person at a wrong time always, but it can happen.
We see it in all the movies. Boy meets girl. Boy and girl fall in love. And they live happily ever after – roll credits. How wonderful it would be if the world were so simple.
In reality relationships don’t work like that…it is because human beings are emotionally complicated and because we’re so emotionally complicated, we manage to make situations complicated.
And eventually… The relationship we trynna keep tied up in that string breaks. If you aren’t yet capable of being in a loving relationship then the two of you are doomed
If you ever fall in love,
Fall in love with someone who wants to know your favorite colour and just how you like your coffee.
Fall in love with someone who loves the way you laugh and would do absolutely anything to hear it.
Fall in love with someone who puts their head on your chest just to hear your heartbeat.
Fall in love with someone who kisses you in the public and is proud to show you off to everyone they know.
Fall in love with someone who will never be rude to to your tummy when it growls and gurgles.
Fall in love with someone who respects your parents the way they do theirs.
Fall in love with someone who makes you question why you were afraid to fall in love in the first place.
Fall in love with someone who leaves you random texts and those silly gifts.
Fall in love with someone who would never ever want to hurt you, intentionally or unintentionally!
Fall in love with someone who falls in love with your flaws and thinks that you are perfect just the way you are🌸
Fall in love with someone who thinks that you are the only one they want to wake up next to every day for the rest of their life.
Fall on love with someone who will hold your hand and will love you. Will love you. Will love you!!
“You deserve someone who’ll take you on cute breakfast dates and get you iced coffee. Someone who’ll give you neck kisses, head massages, and play with your hair. Someone to sir with and talk about big ideas and life. Someone to remind you how dope you are when you aren’t feeling so cool.”
Someone should do that for you, because you shouldn’t have to settle for anything less. You are to be loved, deeply and madly💗
L♡VE, Crazzy Pants🦄🌸
All the above images are inspired from Pexels🌸 and Instagram🌼
I’m sure every single one reading to this blog would relate to this in some or other way…, all of us want to become a better person, but some of us don’t know how.
Every single day before going to bed I sit their and try to reflect and see if I’ve done anything bad or hurt someone or see what can I do to become better.
Not only that, but I have a goal of leaving an imprint on the world for doing great things. By setting aside some time each day to reflect on what behaviors were good and bad, I have the opportunity to grow.
Just to be honest, Me myself, I struggle each day to improve myself and to get better in every way I can. It is not easy, but trust me it is the most beautiful🌸 thing. Like they say…
“There is never an excuse for not being a good person”
So, how to be a better person?
Here are a few ways to become a better person through self-development:
To willing to change In order to become a better person, you have to be willing to change.
Change is the only way you can help grow and progress into the person you want to be. Most of them are strictly against changing, which can make it hard to grow!
When you keep an open mind and are willing to change, you are able to grow into the person you want to become.
Fling your anger Most of us ruin those innumerable subjects of life by letting anger and rage alter the decision-making skills. TBH, I am a very angry person, and it is very difficult to control the anger especially at the times when someone gets into your skin.
But anger only destroyes and effects my mental health with an increase of my blood pressure.
Controlling anger is an extreme difficult task to master, but trust me it’s is very beneficial and makes you the most beautiful person.
Find some way of relaxing your nerves when you’re angry, I just remember my lord and try to calm myself and it always works for me.
Forgive Forgiving someone who’ve hurt you is very difficult. Whenever I get upset on someone I simply ignore them and maintain distance.
That is the simplest you can also do, as wishing them bad or using curse language or being bitter on them for the rest of your lives will make it more difficult on yourself and would cause you mental illness.
Forgive the person who’ve hurt you or did wrong to you and move on quietly🌻
Listen to people Okay, so here all I have got to say is…People are extremely busy with their careers, families, and lives. Everyone is in a rush, but people rarely ever have time to listen to what others have to say.
I have always learnt it from my dad that listening to people and giving everyone a voice is one of the greatest things you can ever do.
Being a good friend You might be a terrible friend and not even realize it. That should scare you. Really, it should!
Sometimes our actions and the words that escape our mouths stop going through a filter. Then eventually we’re not even conscious of how horrible we are as a person/friend/lover/whatever.
There’s no universal method to being caring without being too pushy. Instead, you’ve got to figure out what works best and adjust as needed.
Good friends know how to pick up right where they left off no matter how long it’s been since they last saw each other.
I hope this helped you and if you feel it’ll help some of your close ones then do share this article with them and let them know that you do care for them💞☺🌼
“A moment lasts all of a second, but the memory lives on forever.” ~Unknown
Like snakes shed their skins periodically, I have come to think we shed a bit of ourselves too. But unlike snakes, we don’t completely walk away from the skin we shed.
We leave a bit of ourselves behind, with everyone we meet, and everywhere we go — also carrying back with us bits of others in the shape of memories as we walk away.
Memories don’t, they never fade away completely. Yes, we keep pushing them away consciously as we try to move on from any kind of toxic relationships or toxicity – as one should!
“Toast to the ones here today Toast to the ones that we lost on the way ‘Cause the drinks bring back all the memories And the memories bring back, memories bring back you” ~ Memories – Maroon 5 (song)
But.. Memories never die. Those bits and pieces of our memories remain suspended where we are!
I used to be afraid of memories. Of losing the good ones. I used to think that perhaps there was a limit to how many times we could remember something and once we had exhausted that number, they would be no more.
So many people we love or hate, so many we interact with in various positive and negative ways.
In the end, Those happy memories are what gives you hope to live on and keep going, And those happy memories you make will be with you forever and ever, and when life gets tough in the hereafter it will be those miniature tiny beaming, gleeful memories that pop back into your mind and help you smile and get through those crazy rugged times.
Long distance friendship are those that can get stronger from the miles that they apart, where there is anything that can prevent you from being friends.
Friendships on their own can sometimes feel difficult to manage let alone maintaining them when there’s distance. Ever since I moved to an other city aftey eleventh grade, I’ve seen many of my friendships either grow stronger or slowly fade away.
Whether it’s as simple as graduating high school or deciding to teach English across the world, I’ve been through it all. Here are some of my own experiences in maintaining long distance friendships…☁🌼
A tiny sneak peek to my own long distance friendship🐾🐣
Before I move on to the fun stuff, I want to quickly address a harsh reality. If I’m being completely honest, it’s likely that you won’t be able to stay in touch with everyone that you’d like to, in the way that you may like to. BUT let me also say that this is a harsh reality likely to happen no matter where you live.
What I’ve seen from my own personal experience is that some long-distance friendships take more effort and some seem almost effortless. Some friends you’ll talk to every day, and some you hardly to talk at all, but still find it easy to stay close. I can’t give you an exact formula here. It will really depend on the specific friend and the situation.
Before I go into this even more deeper, you should know, I’m pretty awful at keeping friendships in general.
Most either end in an intentional drifting apart or on pretty rotten terms depending on how dramatic things get. I never want to feel like I’m more invested in a relationship than the other person, so if I start to get that sense, I started putting in some distance.
As I’ve gotten older I’ve tried to communicate better, but sometimes it’s not worth the effort or my attempts don’t seem to have any impact.
My one and my only BFF🌸
With her things seem so effortless, she understands me like no other friend, she have been through all the phases of my life..thick and thin.
She knows all my secrets, she have seen all my weaknesses and have stood there for me… She knows how to handle all my aggravate and all my sum of anger is well treated by her…💞
I met her in my preschool, while we were in the same class and she had joined newly, she was a very shy and quite person….i remember no one actually tried talking to her and during the break I walked to her and introduced myself..she was yet sheepish and wasn’t able to open up candidly, haha.
It’s almost 10 years of our friendship now, and let me tell you, these years were not at all very pleasing and alluring, hahhaha, both of us have been into fights “Cue eye roll” , and went days and weeks not talking or even not looking at each other.
Once her dad had to get involved in elucidating on our disagreements , haha, as it was our birthday the next day and both of us weren’t bending or compromising on the things that were erroneous. (for the people wondering, yess our birth dates fall on the same day💜)
Our communication is by no means perfect, and it’s taken me a little while to accept that we communicate differently, but the same level of care is still there.
Despite of all these reasons, She stood by my side, have made me happy, made me laugh until tears have rolled down my cheeks, haha, those birthday texts. Instagram throwbacks. Little care packages or gifts. Or just anything that fits our friendship. She have always been protective towards me and this bond🍒
I can just indisputably scrawl down pages and pages defining her and our pure and sparkling bond. But I may make a part II for itemizing the bond of ours, as that amusement might not fit into a few paragraphs. Haha.
Just like “they” say, a little effort really does go a long way. And when it comes to being a good friend, I’ve found this statement to be more than true. All you have to do- make sure your friends know that even though you’re not physically there with them, you’ll still always be there for them.
App’s do it for you!
Well, there’s really no denying it- we live in a world completely consumed by technology. Luckily, when it comes to long-distance friendships technology is here to make things easier! With smartphones and laptops, it’s easier than ever to stay in touch with friends while living abroad.
Using apps to stay in touch with friends may seem like a “DUH!,” but the truth is, your apps won’t actually do the work for you. You have to use them right!
And yea… That’s about it.. Shout out to my little dwarf🧙♀I miss you and wish to catch up soon…love ya💜